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#Courage to Be Disliked
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Five hours that felt like two — Adler's 'now, here' as I actually felt it
A night studying for an InfoSec certification when five hours felt like two: body exhausted, time forgotten. That, I realized, is what 'live now, here' actually feels like. The closing post of the three-part Adler series, woven with my habit of overthinking my career and the moment a teammate said 'thank you' for an AI rollout.
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The day I stopped trying to move other people — Adler's separation of tasks, finally landing
From the days when I was wearing myself out trying to make other people move, to the moment 'how others evaluate me is their task' actually hit me at work. A reading note on how The Courage to Be Disliked's separation of tasks finally landed, at home and at the office — and the 1-on-1 phrase I use to keep the principle alive in daily conversation.
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'Only I protect me' — how The Courage to Be Disliked handed me back the steering wheel
From caring deeply about how others saw me, to noticing 'how others evaluate me is their task' and starting to show up as myself. The Courage to Be Disliked's teleology rejects causal blame of the past and returns the steering wheel of life to your own hands. A reading note on the path through a job change and side-project that the book quietly backed me through.